Sacred Heart Program Teaches Business Networking Etiquette

Sacred Heart Program Teaches Business Networking Etiquette

(Posted to Sacred Heart Univ. website Feb. 2011)

By Mike Lauterborn

2/16/11

Fairfield, CT – Crisp suits, portfolios in hand, nametags on lapels. A corporate affair? In a sense. Call it a practice drill.

On Wednesday evening Feb. 16, at the invitation of the Welch College of Business at Sacred Heart University (SHU), Consultant Robert Shutt led a business networking etiquette program targeted to students and supported by faculty, alumni and local business representatives. The setting was the University Commons room at the school, which was dressed out to simulate a corporate gathering and allow students to practice interfacing with business professionals.

“Employers are telling us that students are coming out of school with great grades, but no social skills,” said Sean Heffron, Director of the Student Experience in the Welch College of Business. “So we have recreated a social environment like one they might encounter in the business world where they can learn how to approach a group and interact.”

Specifically, Shutt helped student attendees to feel more comfortable with introductions and conversations, walk away with information that could lead to future opportunities and learn the importance of following up with new contacts. The trainer also served up a healthy helping of etiquette tips that are critical to social situations in a business climate.

Students, like SHU Junior Christine Schneider, 20, were eager to gain these strategies. “I really want to learn how to network and approach people. I tend to get shy and want to overcome that,” she said at the outset of the evening.

Fellow SHU Junior Karin Black, 20, concurred. “I want to enhance my interview skills to better my chances in the job world.”

The etiquette session is just one part of a larger effort that Heffron’s department conducts to help students prepare for life after college. “We offer free tuition for study abroad, free golf lessons and speaker engagements. The latter are interactive and result in internship opportunities. In the past, we’ve had reps from sports management, music, sales and marketing, and entrepreneurism. We’re exposing students to a lot to help them gain a professional comfort level and decide what they want to do with their majors, while enhancing their resumes with their experiences at the same time.”

Alumni Services supports Heffron’s department’s goals by securing alumni for social events and to serve as mentors that students can shadow in business environments. Similarly, the Career Development and Placement Center draws business people from its network of employers for event activities and internship opportunities.

Shutt explained that there are three important components of communication: tone of voice, words you use and body language. “Fifty-five percent of effectiveness is body language, 38% is tone of voice and 7% is words. We use the least effective form of communication most of the time. We need to be more conscious of feedback and what people are saying.”

Shutt also laid out the important foundations for successful interaction: courtesy with regard to words, actions and even scent and how those impact those in your vicinity; focus on the person’s agenda; and respect and understanding of the hierarchy of a situation.

Among effective tips, Shutt suggested researching an event before attending it, having a goal at a social occasion and considering the first impression one makes. Other guidance was more etiquette related including keeping your power hand (right hand) free, asking open-ended questions to get people to talk about themselves, being informed about a variety of topics and taking small amounts of food and beverage.

Both students and businesspeople, who were encouraged to interact with each other, were impacted by the evening’s experience. “It was awkward at first to approach people, especially if they were in mid conversation,” said Accounting Sophomore Megan Papp. “But once you start talking, it boosts your confidence level.”

Marketing Junior Christina Bologna said, “I spoke with Amelia from Barnum Financial Group. She offered to refer me to a friend at a PR firm. She was very easy to speak to. I was apprehensive about meeting people in this atmosphere, but now I’m more at ease.”

Softtech Web and Multi-Media Consultant Danya Jimenez, a 2005 SHU alumnus, was glad to help coach students. “I understand where they are coming from. When I was in school here, Alumni Services helped me with resume prep, interviews and preparing me for the job world. This is a great way for them to become more relaxed about interacting with a potential employer.”

A Solid Foundation in Green Building

A Solid Foundation in Green Building:

SoNo’s Trillium Architects leads the way

By Mike Lauterborn

(For Mar/Apr Green Home supplement to Fairfield Magazine)

You would be hard pressed to find a more deeply passionate green-focused architect.

Elizabeth DiSalvo, 44, the founder/principal of Trillium Architects, LLC in South Norwalk, has always been mindful of building energy-efficient “green” houses. “Green is really simply about quality construction. We want to build houses that you would be proud to leave to your grandchildren,” she says.

DiSalvo was raised in Ridgefield, CT. She earned undergraduate and graduate architectural degrees from Rensselaer and Columbia University respectively.

She gained architectural experience in high school, college and later years working with a variety of high-end Fairfield County architects. Intervening years were spent learning to design modern, natural homes in Los Angeles and New York. Her experience in the early 90s in Colorado was particularly influential. “I lived and designed in a town that was ‘off the grid’. People built their own homes and even their own solar panels. It was very mind opening,” said DiSalvo.

She designed her first new green home in 1999 and, from then on, the “green” focus has been her priority.

“The first aspect that we look at with a green home design is the envelope – the roof, walls and basement,” she said. “We make these areas as well insulated and air-sealed as possible. We keep fresh tempered air flowing with a super high efficiency HVAC system. The better the envelope, the smaller the HVAC system required, which results in high-energy efficiency and monetary savings to the owner. We specify sustainable and natural materials that complete the package to create a long lasting, low maintenance home.”

Besides the technical areas of a home, Trillium focuses on creating unique and sophisticated designs that emphasize natural light, beauty, different levels of intimacy, and the specific needs of each homeowner.

DiSalvo’s theory is simple: The better you build the home, and the more truly special the experience of living in the home, the better the home will be cherished and cared for, and the longer it will last. A home that no one would dream of tearing down and throwing into a landfill is perhaps the greenest home you can build.

“Our distinction in this business is that we have been doing this for a long time,” said DiSalvo. “We’re building fine green homes wherein both the technical and spatial designs have been perfected. Our strong relationships with contractors and subcontractors that are truly experienced in green construction are a plus as well.”

Founded in 2004, Trillium focuses on residential work –from small renovations to complete new homes, working in various “shades” of green, throughout Fairfield and Westchester Counties and beyond.

“Last year, we completed four new homes and several additions,” noted DiSalvo. “Among the new homes was one that will likely receive LEED Platinum certification -- the highest LEED rating. LEED is a standard by which green houses are measured, created by the U.S. Green Building Council.”

DiSalvo said that the firm has another home in progress in Darien that will likely receive LEED Platinum.   

Kids Gets a Look at Colonial Winter Life

Kids Gets a Look at 
Colonial Winter Life:

Fairfield Museum program offers hands-on activities

(Posted to Fairfield.Patch.com 2/25)

By Mike Lauterborn

© 2011. All Rights Reserved.

2/25/11

Fairfield, CT – Muskets. Linen clothing. Chestnuts. Cinnamon cakes. All the ingredients of a fun-filled and educational program hosted by Fairfield Museum and History Center.

A half-day session held Friday morning as part of February Vacation programming, “Colonial Winter Times” offered children grades 3 to 6 with the opportunity to see how boys and girls spent the dark days of winter during the 1700s. Seventeen participating students tried on reproduction clothing, learned about military weaponry and gear, planted chestnut seeds and helped prepare edible treats.

A highlight of the class was the guest appearance of Agricultural Scientist Sandy Anagnostakis from the New Haven-based Agricultural Experiment Station. In the Center’s Educational Classroom, where the program was conducted, she spoke about her work trying to repopulate New England with American Chestnut trees, relied upon in Colonial times as a critical resource with many uses. The trees, which were the most dominant tree in Connecticut, were almost completely wiped out by a blight that appeared in 1904.

“At one time, a squirrel could go over 1,000 miles from chestnut tree to chestnut tree, Maine to Georgia, without touching ground,” said Anagnostakis. “They were very important as our country was being colonized. The trees produced tasty nuts but also wood that was very strong and used for floors, furniture and buildings. The additional advantage is that chestnut wood doesn’t rot and lasts very long.”

Walter Matis, a museum volunteer leading the session, added, “Chestnut trees were also a source of tanic acid in Colonial times, which was used in the process of turning animal skins into leather.”

Anagnostakis explained that the chestnuts we see today are European that have been cross-bred with Japanese chestnuts. While the latter were resistant to the blight, they are not good timber substitutes as the trees don’t grow as big as the American Chestnut tree.

In an effort to spur the return of the American Chestnut, program participants were given chestnut seeds, moistened soil and pots and guided on planting them. “You’ll take these home and, hopefully, over time, we’ll see them come back,” said Matis.

On a side note, in spring 2013, as a gift to Fairfield, the Fairfield Garden Club will be planting 100 chestnut seedlings across 10 sites to further drive the revival of chestnuts.

Brushing dirt from their hands, session participants switched gears to help prepare Dutch Cinnamon Squares. “These would be a winter treat in Colonial times as they contain sugar, which was hard to come by then,” said Matis as the children passed around a mixing bowl and took turns stirring ingredients.

“I’ve had these cinnamon squares at another museum program,” said Francis Ohe, 10. “They’re really good, like little muffins.”

As the treats, which were later enjoyed with hot chocolate, baked, Matis broke out period clothing, which all the children had a chance to try on. Items included daily wear like tri-corn hats, casual and dressy frocks, and chemises.

“People then always dressed in layers,” said Matis. “Boys and girls both wore gowns or chemises that would be worn both to bed and as underclothing. Most individuals in a family had between only one and three suits of clothing, with a best set worn only on Sundays.”

Matis added, “There were two primary materials used – wool and linen. Only the wealthiest families, like the Burrs in Fairfield, could afford silk. There was also cotton, but it was also expensive.”

In addition to everyday wear, Matis shared military garments and equipment including uniforms, muskets, swords, bayonets, canteens and shoulder pouches for ammunition. He gave background about each piece and even demonstrated how muskets were loaded and fired.

“Imagine a thousand men coming across a field with muskets and bayonets,” said Matis. “What would you do?”

“Scream and run away!” said one student.

Asked about all the clothing he had tried on, 11-year-old Matthew Pryor said, “I wouldn’t like to wear this clothing if I lived in Colonial times. It’s not very comfortable and is very loose. It doesn’t have pockets or enough buttons either.”

Clearly, the group, while fascinated with Colonial life, appreciated the comforts of modern life.

Freed Slave Memoirs Spur Chat 135 Years Later

Freed Slave Memoirs 
Spur Chat 135 Years Later:

Fairfield Museum Spotlights 

“A Slave No More”

(Posted to Fairfield.Patch.com 2/24)

By Mike Lauterborn

© 2011. All Rights Reserved.

2/23/11

Fairfield, CT – Wallace Turnage and John Washington could not have imagined that their recollections of personal hardship, written in the 1870s, would be the topic of spirited conversation at a book chat in Fairfield some 135 years later.

On Wednesday evening, Fairfield Museum and History Center hosted Dr. Samuel L. Schaffer, who moderated a roundtable discussion of the book “A Slave No More” by David Blight. The subjects of the book are Turnage, a teenage field hand from an Alabama plantation, and Washington, an urban slave in Virginia. In the chaos of the Civil War, both escaped north. Blight retells their flights to freedom as well as provides an account of their lives as he reconstructed them.

The book chat, the first of four in a History Book Club series the Museum has scheduled to run through May 25, was attended by a small group of people that brought unique perspectives to the table and spurred lively discussion.

Moderator Schaffer, a post-doctoral fellow at Yale University and former student of the author, explained how Blight’s agent came to him five or six years ago with the narratives. One document was found in an attic by a Greenwich woman. The other was discovered in Massachusetts. Blight, who is currently working on a biography of abolitionist Frederick Douglass, reviewed the narratives and realized how important they were.

Using a wealth of genealogical information, Blight reconstructed the former slaves’ childhoods as sons of white slaveholders, their service as camp hands during the Civil War, and their climb to black working-class stability in the north, where they reunited with their families. Blight’s account includes a preface about runaway slaves and emancipation.

Schaffer said the slave narrative is its own genre and can be divided into two categories: Pre-Emancipation and Post-Civil War. With regard to the former, there are 65 known narratives and they were written by young men in their teens and 20s about their flight from slavery to freedom. Many were published by abolitionists to point to the evils of slavery. The post-war narratives, of which there are 45, are less about slavery and more about the journey from slavery to affluence, with arguments against Jim Crow laws.

Schaffer said the narratives of “A Slave No More” are unique in that they tell of escape to freedom but as a backward-looking reflection years later after slavery was abolished. Washington, for instance, escaped to the north in 1862 but wrote his account in 1873. Turnage escaped in 1864.

Attendee Sherry Thorne of Fairfield suggested, “War was a catalyst that created chaos and allowed many slaves to escape.”

Schaffer added, “The Emancipation Proclamation was the driving force and protected the slaves’ flight. They were fleeing to Union Army lines, which was a constantly moving border between slavery and freedom.”

Schaffer said the Union Army didn’t know what to do with the slaves, referred to them as “captured contraband” and put them to work. He said the slaves didn’t mind that though as it was “free labor” and not plantation labor. Still, he said, there was always suspicion that they would be sold back into slavery.

Attendee J. Alfred Dunn suggested, as Washington and Turnage’s narratives were not mediated nor previously published, that the men “put these recollections down for those that came after them in their families.”

Fairfielder Sherry Thorne agreed with Dunn. “They would have had no expectation of the documents being published.”

However, Schaffer said, “The memoirs are mediated by time and memory, with reflective inferences about the significance of the events of the war.”

Memorie Mitchell, visiting from Birmingham, Alabama, was intrigued by the topic. “I grew up during the Civil Rights movement,” she said. “We were all segregated. My class was the last totally white graduating class in my high school. There were white water fountains. No black person came into our restrooms at all.”

Thorne was equally impressed by Blight’s book. “What I liked about it was that it captured the difficulty of being so totally disenfranchised and then being free, and always the sadness of broken families. In the end, the epilogue explains how Blight was able to connect with the family of one of the slaves. It brings to mind how difficult it is for people of African-American descent to trace their family history. There’s just so much missing,” she said.

Victorian Age Inspires Crafts and Teacakes

Victorian Age Inspires Crafts and Teacakes:

Fairfield Museum American Girl program entertains girls

(Posted to Fairfield.Patch.com 2/24)

By Mike Lauterborn

© 2011. All Rights Reserved.

2/23/11

Fairfield, CT – If the Queen – Victoria that is -- could have seen them busily working away at their activities, she would have been proud.

The period in which the English monarch reigned, 1837- 1901, defined as the Victorian Era, was the inspiration on Wednesday for the “American Girl Afternoon” program at Fairfield Museum and History Center. Targeting girls in grades 3 to 6, the workshop was one of several February Vacation programs being offered by the center in the Feb. 21-25 window. The program introduced participants to the craft known as decoupage and showed them how to prepare Victorian-style teacakes.

To best connect with this age set, the class was associated with the American Girl line of dolls, which helps teach what girls did in the past, and participants were encouraged to bring their own American Girl dolls.

Led by Christine Jewell, Director of Educational Programming, the class was joined by thirteen girls. All were very chatty and giggly, but tuned in and eager to learn. They sat around a block of tables that had been pushed together in a light-filled classroom.

“Who’s Queen Victoria?” asked Jewell, kicking off the session.

“I think she was the queen of England and the Victorian Era was named after her,” said Gillian Rooney, 10, an Osborn Hill student, brightly.

This ignited a discussion about the clothing and mannerisms of that period and helped set up the decoupage activity. Jewell provided colored tissue paper, magazine pictures, doilies and patterned paper and instructed the girls to tear or cut pieces from the materials as elements to glue onto small wooden boxes.

“It was common during the Victorian Era to decoupage glass, boxes and furniture,” said Jewell. “They really decoupaged everything. This is a good and easy way for girls to experience this popular period craft.”

As she cut lace for her container, Emma Weller, 8, visiting from Cambridge, Massachusetts, said, “This is super fun to do. I’m going to use the box for my doll’s accessories, like shoes, bracelets, necklaces and things for her hair.”

At the opposite end of the table, Osborn Hill student Katie Hinkle, 10, glued pink and red scraps of paper to the lid of her container. “These are some of my favorite colors,” she said. “I’m going to put jewelry in my box.”

Sitting down the way, Sarah Herley, 9, a St. Thomas Aquinas student, said, “I picked the paper I’m using ‘cause it looked interesting. The box will be for my American Girl’s stuff.”

As the girls completed their decoupage projects, Jewell set them about preparing Queen Victoria Dream Bars -- small tasty teacakes. Rachel Loboncz, 9, one of a set of triplets, really looked forward to this part of the program.

“I like to help my mom bake and we cook a lot of things in our house… bread pudding, cookies,” Loboncz said. “All of us kids help out with the cooking. These Dream Bars are fun!”

As important as the afternoon program was as an educational opportunity, it also fostered friendship and camaraderie between the girls. As they worked on their activities, it allowed them to share tales about school, family and friends.

“There’s always something to talk about,” said Jewell as the group chattered away.

Alayna Barrios, 11, of Burr School, who has participated in similar programs in the past, enjoyed the friendly environment. “Everyone has a story to share. Usually this is more fun in a big group like this, as many of us know each other and we can share things we’ve done together.”

No sooner had Barrios said that when Dani Corrigan, 10, of Jennings School, chirped, “We’re going to take a survey about Justin Bieber.” Girls will be girls after all and the dynamic here proved that.

Adirondack Night a ‘Lodge’ of Fun

Adirondack Night a ‘Lodge’ of Fun:

Annual Audubon fundraiser draws bird lovers

(Appeared in Fairfield Citizen News)

By Mike Lauterborn

© 2011. All Rights Reserved.

2/17/11

Fairfield, CT – Sheepskin and wool throws over the backs of wooden benches. Old lanterns and flickering candles on a stone hearth. Wall mounted bear and deer trophies. Table centerpieces of pine needles and sunflowers. An Adirondack lodge environment? That was the idea.

These accents and more set the stage Thursday evening Feb. 17 for Adirondack Night at the Connecticut Audubon Society Center at 2325 Burr Street. The annual fundraiser, chaired by Peter Kunkel, vice chairman of the regional board of the Society, and his wife Carleen, helps support the organization’s mission to conserve Connecticut’s birds and their habitats. The event was attended by about 100 people, who were exposed to a myriad of elements.

Providing a music backdrop was New Haven area based band One Way Track, plucking out bluegrass tinged acoustic Americana. A silent auction featured such provocative items as a four-day Nantucket weekend, stone birdbath, a basket of “bird booze” (Wild Turkey and Famous Grouse Scotch), a case of red wine and a Winter Warm-Up Basket of Treats. Hors d’oeuvres included an array of cheeses and crackers, along with several pots of steaming chili. An open bar accommodated revelers with their beverage of choice. Millie the barn owl was even trotted out for a meet and greet.

“This is really great to just come here to a transformed lodge setting where you can hang out and relax while contributing to a great cause,” said Linnea McHenry, an educator with the Center.

Greenfield Hill resident Barbara Weintraub, attending with daughter Heather and neighbor Bill Seaver, concurred. “We took up Bill’s invite to join him and his wife Earlyne (a member) for the evening,” she said. “Of course, we will be sure and test Earlyne’s chili.”

Of the occasion, Seaver, 93, said, “It’s a wonderful event and great organization. We come every year. We’re bird people, with bird feeders. We buy 100 pounds of bird seed annually.”

Eyeing a gift basket among the silent auction items, Kathy Van Der Aue, a Society board member, shared the same enthusiasm. “This is my favorite event of the year. It’s informal and lots of fun. It’s more of a “friend” raiser than a fundraiser as it’s a little less expensive than our other events,” she chuckled.

Several attendees really dove into the spirit of the event, donning suede, flannel shirts or, like Judy Richardson, chairman of the Fairfield board of governors for the Society, a vest checkered with fly fishing lure imprints.

“This evening is a cabin fever party,” said Richardson. “At this time of year, we’re so tired of winter. There’s not much use for the facility. You can’t get on the trails… but we can connect with our members and give back.”

Dressed in a lumberjack-like red shirt trimmed with suspenders and browsing auction items was Dr. Robert Braun, 82. A past president of the Society at the time the Burr Street facility – the Larsen Sanctuary Center – was being built, Braun offered a unique perspective about the site.

“I’ve been a member since 1941,” he said. “The Society has grown tremendously since, from less than 400 members then, to tens of thousands now. The Fairfield branch is the second oldest Audubon Society in the country, founded by Mabel Osgood Wright in 1898. When I was a boy of 12 or 13, I used to ride my bicycle up to this area on Sundays to go bird watching. It was much wilder then.”

Enjoying cups of chili, Sally Waugh of Southport and Ted Pratt of Westport said they were true bird fans. “We love birds… hate squirrels. We have a hawk around our property – hopefully he’ll take care of some of the squirrels,” Pratt joked.

Truly embracing the evening’s theme was Landon Storrs, a conservation commission member who had donned a Victorian-style dress and bug veiling. She explained, “We have a camp at Blue Mountain Lake, NY, built during the Victorian era. This is period bug attire… protection from black flies.”

Looking out across the room, event co-founder Carleen Kunkel was happy to see how the affair had evolved over time. “This started off as a friends event, a freebie. Then a new director came on board and suggested the evening could be a fundraiser. We drag furniture and décor from our own homes to dress the space up to make it warm and lodge-like.”

As a couple began spontaneously two-stepping, it was clear Kunkel had succeeded in effecting an environment where attendees could let their feathers fly.

Man About Town: Andros Diner, A Neighborhood Favorite

Man About Town: Andros Diner, 
A Neighborhood Favorite

(For Feb. 18 Fairfield Citizen News)

By Mike Lauterborn

2/13/11

It was the Sunday before Valentine’s Day, skies were overcast and snowbanks all around were frozen and gray. The morning called for a setting that would immediately thaw a fed-up-with-winter demeanor. Andros Diner and Restaurant at 651 Villa Avenue seemed like a good candidate.

With its Art Deco-style décor of chrome trim, neon lights, and booths and stools with raspberry and pastel green color schemes, the 3,000-square-foot diner has been an area anchor since 1972.

Greeting me at the door was owner Leo Pertesis, 60, who gave some background about the place and spoke about its dynamic. “It was originally owned by me and my three brothers – four families in all. The four became 20 and we all branched off around town. I remained with this location.”

He said that there were two houses and a shoe store on the site originally. “We bought the property, knocked the structures down and built the restaurant. Where Super Stop ‘n Shop is now was then Pantry Pride, there was a Topps clothing store and Kohl’s was Caldor’s. The area’s always been a business section, just the names have changed. We’re about the only ones that haven’t changed.”

The diner has enjoyed long-time fans, said Andros. “Customers that came in as children come to see us now as adults with their own families.” As we spoke at the front register, Leo greeted by name nearly every customer that stepped up to settle their tab.

One of those was Gary Zingo, 64. “As a young kid, my dad used to take me to the Bridgeport Y to swim, and then, after, we’d go to Uncle Bill’s Diner where Leo got his start as a cook. When he opened up this diner, we just moved over. Now I live in Florida and, whenever I am in town, we always make sure to stop in, reminisce and have some good food. My two children now come in here with their own families.”

Andros said customers are from all walks of life. “We get musicians, artists, retirees, politicians, young families. They like the casual friendly atmosphere. You can eat anything from eggs to surf and turf any time of the day. We’re open 24 hours, about one of the only ones in town that do that. People begin and end their day here.”

As to popular dishes, which are all reasonably priced, Andros said those include dinner platters, Eggs Benedict, Greek and Italian specialties, steaks and chops. All baking is done on the premises.

Mark Resko, 67, seated at a counter, was another fan. “I’ve been coming here every weekday for 25 years to meet friends for breakfast. I also come over by myself on weekends. My business, MCI Security Systems, is right nearby. The food is consistently good and Leo, Maria, Johnny and Tony treat their patrons as if they were family.”

Settled into a booth with his wife Caroline, Len Benton, 73, was yet another veteran of the diner. “I’ve known Leo and his family since the early 60s and have been coming here since he opened. I’ve got 12 brothers and two sisters and all of them have come here, too, over the years. We always order the Caroline Omelet, named after my wife – egg whites, spinach, lettuce and tomato. It’s a good healthy dish – my wife’s a health freak.”

The Benton’s usual waitress, Cindy Nishball, 44, said regulars like the couple give her a reason to come to work. “I like the camaraderie. We have fun.”

Spoons clinked on plates, good folks streamed in and out, and kitchen doors swung back and forth as orders and empty dishes went in and steaming hot platefuls of food came out.

It was hard to leave this warm blanket of an eatery but further Man About Town adventures called.